Jen Atkin Asks for Guidance on Parenting After Devastating Fire Loss
Jen Atkin, a celebrity hairstylist and founder of OUAI, is among the many residents of Los Angeles impacted by the ongoing wildfires.
In recent hours, Atkin has taken to Instagram to document the devastating aftermath.
On Tuesday, January 7, Atkin had to evacuate her home with her husband, children, and pets. She is now reaching out for guidance.
“I would appreciate any advice on how to explain to the kids that we won’t be returning home,” Atkin shared with her followers.
“My babies’ beds, blankets, and stuffed animals are still here,” she expressed alongside an image of the debris where her home once stood.
This is a conversation many are having during this time of devastation.
According to Ashley Etheridge from Dandelion Family Counseling, it is crucial to “share just enough information.”
“If a child witnesses a fire or its aftermath, it is beneficial to provide brief, factual, and age-appropriate information,” Etheridge notes. “Children need to comprehend frightening or confusing news to process it.”
Alongside sharing necessary information, Etheridge emphasizes the importance of “validating” children’s feelings.
“Recognizing a child’s emotions is vital. This fosters safety and connection. You might reflect, ‘Receiving news about a fire can be frightening. My responsibility as a parent is to protect you.’”
Additionally, Etheridge suggests that giving children purpose by assisting those in the community impacted by the disaster can be beneficial.
“Sometimes, children may feel helpless after a fire.” By making donations or providing food and drinks to firefighters, children can “regain a sense of security and control.”
The International Association of Fire Fighters also emphasizes the importance of maintaining as normal a routine as possible for children.
“During chaotic or emotional times, it is essential for your child that you adhere to regular routines, such as school drop-off and pick-up times and family meals,” the IAFF reports, adding that providing children with extra time and attention can aid them in coping.
“These routines convey a sense of normalcy to your child and communicate the message, ‘Even though this tragedy has occurred, I am still here for you, and your world remains stable.’”
Furthermore, the City of Petaluma encourages parents to foster discussions about children’s feelings.
“Let children express their feelings about the disaster and ask questions as much as they wish. Encourage children to articulate their emotions. Listen to their perspectives.”
It’s also essential to stay together as a family.
“As you search for housing and support, you may feel inclined to leave your children with relatives or friends. However, try to keep the family together as much as possible and involve children in the process of rebuilding,” the City of Petaluma advises.
“Children tend to feel anxious and may worry that their parents will not return.”
Visit the LAFD website for local wildfire alerts and click here for resources on how to assist those affected.
